Edit: I WAS CURED AFTER 22 YEARS! I had a vestibulectomy Dec. 2016. The recovery was easier for me than having sex ever was. It took about 5 weeks. I have included my recovery photos. Look for the blogpost "I'm Cured!" and "My Vestibulectomy".
I’m a great woman with a pissed-off vulva. I have “primary vestibulitis." Most people are uncomfortable discussing their genital pain in public. My hope is that my obsession to find help for myself will make your experience shorter, easier, and less painful. P.S. Recently "vestibulitis" has been renamed to "vestibulodynia."
The Low Oxalate Die
Here's the concept: salts of oxalic acid are a byproduct of plants and legumes - blueberries, spinach - and what we think of as plant based products - wheat, chocolate, nuts. Plants produce sodium, potassium, and calcium salts. The sodium and potassium salts are soluble and can combine with calcium to create kidney stones (in some versions of kidney stones). The calcium salts are non-soluble and their crystaline structure can be an irritant in the mouth and digestive system. One theory that explains vulvodynia is that these oxalates, when excreted through your urine, essentially “cut up” your vulvar skin creating ongoing and painful irritation. This damaged skin never heals as long as you continue to eat too many oxalic foods.
The low oxalate diet as a help for vulvodynia is advocated by Vulvar Pain Foundation at www.vulvarpainfoundation.org and is explained in great detail in the cookbook The Low Oxalate Cookbook, Book 2. This book reports on the oxalate content of many common foods and gives you a strong start because it lists the oxalate content for most common ingredients. The recipes themselves are of boring, Americana. Where is the Asian, Mexican, Middle-Eastern, and African food? I like potato salad, but really.
I was vegetarian, but it has forced me to eat a little meat to get protein as nuts, soy, and legumes are out. Any nutritional expert want to give advice on this?